Glee only reflects real life..........well the life I would love to live

I have just down-loaded more music from Glee onto my ipod.  I told Fiona (my partner) about my new music choice and she just rolled her eyes. She is a Glee lover, as I am, however the difference between her and I is that I live in a make-believe world where all things are solved by singing and dancing.  Fiona is a realist and I am an optomist, wishing for a different life rather than accepting that life really isn't so pretty.  Imagine a life where gay people were cool or at least accepted, where kids with disabilites were awesome and one could sing out their feelings when the need arose.

As a kid my favourite movies were Mary Poppins and the Sound of Music.  I really believe that musicals are the answer to all the world's woes.  Imagine a war solved by a duet.........lol.  Kind of silly but I know that music and dancing make my heart sing.  A musical on a down day always makes me feel whole. The following is my suggestion to make you feel better:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X-Ysqz_sMU0

My new mantra

I forget lots of stuff.  It definitely is the story of my life for the moment.  My partner told me some “very important” stuff about our finances yesterday. She asked if I was listening.  I said I was and I know I was listening but for the life of me I can’t remember what she said today. 

I think I put if down to be a working Mum but I think perhaps that’s just an excuse.  If it’s not on my list of things to do or on the calendar it doesn’t exist because my brain is full.  Full of what.........well I’m not quite sure.  My partner would say crap and that I rely on her to remember all of those important things.  But why would I retain stuff that she knows. 

My partner is definitely the other part of me.  She starts where I finish.  I know little of our finances.  I know how much we have and that we earn enough to pay bills but that is where my knowledge finishes and starts.  I know I should be interested and take on some of the responsibility but I just don’t care.

When I asked my 4 year old last week what a friend’s mother was called he said he didn’t know.  He said “Come on Mum remember.  Breathe in, breathe out and think”.  Great advice!  My new mantra!

Having 2 mums

My son has 2 mums.  His life consists of his home, his 2 dogs, his 2 cats, school and of course his mums.  A fairly ordinary tale for a 4 year old.  However, decisions about his life are thrust into the media on regular occasions.  Politicians debate the necessity for gay people to marry.   He has parents that aren't married-because they can't.  He has one mum who has no legal rights over him-because she can't.  So this places our child into a vulnerable postion. 

I never want him to have to fight the battles that are mine BUT what happens when he is in hospital and I'm not available to sign his consent forms.  My partner can not sign these forms.  We have had this situation occur.  I was unwell, as was our son and I couldn't sign his forms.  My partner was frightened and did not notify the hospital about the potential scenario she encountered.  This directly impacts upon our child, so unfortunately it is his issue. 

This is not about our choices, it's not about his choices.  It's about common sense equality.  We would love for our son to say his parents are married.  We would love to tell others we are married but we can't.  We quietly sit and wait.  We occasionally talk about our desire to marry with our straight friends and family. 

Being married would make a difference to our lives.  All of our lives, my partner, my son and myself.  We are a family!